Filed Under : by Timothy Tabada
Wednesday, February 11, 2015
I. Romantic Guy - A woman loves to feel appreciated, and the romantic guy makes this happen. He uses romantic gestures to show her he is thinking about her. As an added bonus, she feels free to reciprocate and act on her own romantic tendencies.
II. Confident Guy - omen are attracted to confident men. Consider this: If you think you are great, she will probably be influenced to think the same. The confident man doesn't seek approval from women, and this makes them want him even more.
III. Artistic Guy - Every woman wants to feel unique and special. There is no better way to make her feel this way than to use her as your muse or your source of inspiration. She is intrigued by the artistic guy's creative mind and especially by the way he incorporates her into his art.
IV. Foreign Guy - Charisma, charisma and charisma. There's not much more I can say about this one; it's just that mysterious je ne sais quoi that is so alluring. Women often choose this kind of guy if they are curious about the world, but most of the appeal comes down to a fascination with dating someone from another culture.
V. Free Spirited Guy (Aka The Bad Boy) - Every woman wants a bit of a rebel (within reason, of course). She loves his carefree attitude and hopes that it will rub off on her too. The bad boy spirit adds an element of youthfulness to the relationship and she loves to try taming him -- although she knows she'll never actually succeed.
VI. Intelligent/Witty Guy - As time goes on, your hairline may recede and your buff body may soften, but if you can keep her interested, you've won half the battle. An intellectual connection is a big part of what sustains a relationship and if you can show her that you've got that, she'll be hooked pretty quickly.
VII. Considerate Guy - Surprised? You probably think that nice, considerate guys never get the woman, but consider this: Once a woman has gone through her share of the bad guy, the rude guy and the not-calling-her-back guy, she will likely reevaluate her priorities. It takes a bit of maturity on her part to realize this, but eventually most girls come around and realize that they want a guy who will treat them well in the long run.
By any chance, many if not one from the lists could be a woman's description of an 'Ideal Man''. If their hearts could just talk, it would say 'a guy should have "this and that" in order for him to pass my standards and be a potential boyfriend or a potential partner in life someday'. We will not put them into judgement or contradict these because in one way or another they-girls do really have different preferences on choosing a guy.
If you would Google or Yahoo search about the Characteristics of an Ideal man, you could have thousands of sources of information basing on different perspective. There are 3 tips, 4 ways, 5 signs and even up to the 'nth- power' indications on how to determine an Ideal guy. No, no, let's have a different picture, we should not adopt these secular views of what an Ideal Man really is. As Christians we should not base our standards, patterns or schemes this world offers, but we should have a renewed mind that we woul be able to test and approve what God's will is--His good, pleasing and perfect will for us. (Rom. 12:2)
It is important to understand that an Ideal man is neither the one who has the biggest muscles, with a showcased-car, a sophisticated mansion, nor with an executive job. Practicality can be a loophole to mediocrity that could lead us to not enjoy God's Best Delicacy. In this article, we would get to know 3 Biblical Standards on what a man should really become that he might be not just an ideal man for women, but an Ideal man before the Lord (which should be the inmost desire).
I. An Ideal Man is known to what he is FAITHFUL TO.
It makes me laugh when I hear ladies, after a hurtful breakup, change their life verse from-Psalms 40:1 'I waited patiently for the LORD; and he inclined unto me, and heard my cry' to-Psalm 118:8 'It is better to trust in the LORD than to put confidence in man'. It’s as if they have bitterly taken the verse by its literal meaning because of the loss of trust to all of hu-MEN-ity just because of a single person they’ve had bad relationship with.
Obviously being faithful is never a question as far as the quality of an ideal man is concerned. But this type of faith is not just under the umbrella of a man-woman relationship, nor an issue of a man's truthfulness to his partner. This goes beyond the visible manifestations of a man's care, love and loyalty. This is the kind of faith that talks about the man's devotion to God. A question that answers, "Where does this guy place God on his priority list?". An Ideal Man is known to his-FAITHFULNESS to the Lord.
Some ladies have been blind enough to only consider the things that are rendered to them. They feel inspired, loved and secured when someone does something cute, charming or something that would make them special. Often than not they have forgotten to assess the man's relationship to God. They have settled to think that when a guy does something sweet, he is already a potential partner. This is the very pitfall why many have dived in a sugar-coated, permissive-willed relationship without understanding the essential value of the man's relationship to God.
A man that has a good relationship with God is a man that has a good relationship to his partner, though it will never be always perfect, but at most, a relationship that has a God to mediate to, a God of peace, forgiveness and 'agape' love to follow and cherish with one another.
"A husband who is 85 percent faithful to his wife is not faithful at all. There is no such thing as part-time loyalty to Jesus Christ." - Vance Havner
II. An Ideal Man is known to what he FOLLOWS AFTER.
This is not a 'follow' of prominent personalities, celebrities and influential people from facebook or twitter. This is a follow of something beyond clicking could do. This is a follow of character, spirituality, credibility and integrity. I Timothy 6:11b quotes "But thou, o man of God...follow after righteousness, godliness, faith, love, patience, meekness". One tag of an ideal man is the place of his influence. An Ideal man is known to his-pursuit or FOLLOW of a Holy, God centered life.
It is a challenge on the women to know that their ideal man is a man that is upright with God. This does not mean that they will be the one to seek after him. This is a challenge of knowing the guy on how he handles the situation, the tension and the temper. Again, it is always a gain to know the person you like. It has an advantage because you will get to know his real personality when tension arises or when unfavorable circumstance is on the way. It will gauge the maturity level of the so-called ideal man on temper and mood issues.
It is also important to note if the man follows authority. An Ideal man will always acknowledge his superiors and respects his parents. This represents his gentlemanness and respect towards people in the same manner that other people would respect him. A follower can also be termed a servant, not a slave, but a servant. A servant that is willing to serve or has the heart of service in whatever/whichever way he could. An ideal man makes things happen; he will always initiate and innovate to find a way for the better solution.
-A real man manifests the identity of Christ and His Likeness-
III. An Ideal Man is known to what he FLEES FROM.
Every man is designed to provide for the family. A man majorly operates for the purpose of meeting the family's need every single day. Yet today, we have seen a lot of over-worked or workaholic men that may have neglected their primary obligation to not just provide for family's need but are also in the saddest state of switching/shifting their love to the money they are earning. I Timothy 6:3-10 discuss the general idea of the love of money-as the root of all kinds of evil. A mark of an Ideal Man is one that FLEES from the Love of Money (Materialistic in layman’s terms).
Imagine a man that can provide for your need, but only spends time to communicate and talk with you 5 minutes a day. He may provide for your tangible need, but an ideal man meets both the tangible and the intangible, the seen and the unseen, the physical and the emotional. Much more preferable if he can lead you both to the spiritual walk of unity and love in Christ. A kind of man that will really give his best to his partner not only with the provision, but also the affection.
Furthermore, looking back to the verses given, verses 4-5 quotes "they are conceited and understand nothing. They have an unhealthy interest in controversies and quarrels about words that result in envy, strife, malicious talk, evil suspicions and constant friction between people of corrupt mind, who have been robbed of the truth and who think that godliness is a means to financial gain". Who would want a man like that? A man that loves his money (resources) is considered carnal, and ungodly, thus conflicting to the first point.
-A House will never be a Home, without a Father.-
Ideal men, in its wordly context, are too good to be true. We see them a lot in movies, fairy tales and books. How sad to know that even the actors of these movies are in real life, a failure to their relationships and families.
This article is written to tell the women, to open their eyes and be realistic, that ideal men, in God's point of view, are those unidentified, unclassified, unrecognized men that do simple things in simple ways but put's their trust in God rather than in their capabilities or resources. These men can be in your church or at your circle of friends. They may be the simplest person you may know, but they can have the greatest heart.
And to remind our men that they don't need to look handsome, too drive a fancy car nor to be a top manager to be able to be considered an ideal man in God's sight. They just have to be a truly dedicated man of God who can handle things in speech, in life, in love, in faith and in purity.
